11 Tips For Understanding Your Child's Emotional Development

Need For Understanding Your Child’s Experience

Parents often understandably look to answers to solve problems. But research shows that simply being curious about the meaning of your child’s behavior helps them to regulate their big emotions, think flexibly, and manage social situations. While you may sometimes not understand the meaning of your child’s behavior, simply wondering rather than misinterpreting and jumping to conclusions can be helpful. Parents play a key role in a child’s emotional development.

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Top 10 Parenting Tips

Raising a family while keeping your life balanced is an art form. Here are 10 tools that I have seen make life in the family lane a much nicer ride.

1. Identify your child's strengths. You can use them to build your child’s self-esteem, helping to provide the confidence he or she needs to tackle whatever seems difficult. Children will be more willing to listen and understand how to correct adverse behaviors if their dignity is intact.

2. Punishing a child is not as effective as using praise and rewards. Rather than focusing on weaknesses, find ways to assist your child in developing to his or her full potential. When encouraged, children will acquire talents to compensate for any deficiencies. 

3. Avoid negative emotional reactions, such as anger, sarcasm, and ridicule. If your child has problems with control, negativity will only make him or her feel worse. Use short and mild suggestions to remind your child to focus, like “P.A.” for “pay attention.”

For more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-fitness/201509/top-10-parenting-tips

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CHILD PSYCHOLOGY JOBS AND CAREERS

Working with children can be fun and challenging, a perfect mix for people who love kids and are looking for a rewarding career. One of the greatest things about choosing a child-related profession is that you have the opportunity to truly make a difference in the lives of the kids, particularly those who may be vulnerable, at-risk, or in need of assistance.

If you're looking for a fulfilling career, then consider some of the following child psychology jobs that involve helping children fill their physical, mental, educational and social needs.

Know: https://www.verywellmind.com/psychology-careers-that-involve-working-with-children-2794944

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10 TIPS FOR PARENTING PRETEENS

It’s typically between the ages of nine and twelve that our cute, cuddly little children, once so willing to climb into our laps and share their secrets, suddenly want little or nothing to do with us. A child in preadolescence is not the same person he was just a year or two ago. He has changed—physically, cognitively, emotionally, and socially. He’s developing new independence and may even want to see how far he can push limits set by parents.

What he may not know is that he needs you as much as ever, because a strong parent-child relationship now can set the stage for a much less turbulent adolescence. But it won’t be easy, because you as a parent need to respect your child’s need for greater autonomy in order to forge a successful relationship with this “updated” version of your kid.

We asked some experts for parenting tips to help you keep the channels of communication open between you and your pre-teen—and have a smoother transition into the teen years.

Read more: https://childmind.org/article/10-tips-for-parenting-your-pre-teen/

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16 Research-Based Hacks for Your Social Life

Our world is made up of lots of people doing lots of things all the time. Psychology can help you to understand your own and other people’s behavior better. Following are just a few of the ways you can deploy psychology in your social life. Some people might call these items hacks, shortcuts, or even manipulation techniques. But all can be socially useful—and are based on sound psychological principles.

1. People remember the first and last things you do, so make a good impression and end on a high note.

The Serial Positioning Effect is one of the most well researched concepts in all of psychology. Basically, it explains that, in a list, we tend to remember the things at the start and at the end. This is a fairly strong and reliable effect. More generally, in a sequence of events, things that happen first and last are going to stick in our memory more strongly than events in the middle.

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mating-game/201604/16-research-based-hacks-your-social-life

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How To Change Your Child's Behaviour - Without Punishment

“Where did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we have to make them feel worse? Think of the last time you felt humiliated or treated unfairly. Did you feel like cooperating or doing better?” - Jane Nelsen

Parents are often surprised to hear that most of what we think of as discipline -- spankings, consequences, even timeouts -- doesn't help kids become responsible, self-disciplined people. After all, parents punish so kids will learn to behave, right?

But children learn what they live. The most effective way to teach kids is our modeling, and to treat them the way we want them to treat others: with compassion and understanding. When we spank, punish, or yell, kids learn to act aggressively.

Know more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/peaceful-parents-happy-kids/201404/how-change-your-childs-behavior-without-punishment

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Child Psychology Tips To Bring Up Your Children Better

Renowned child psychologist Justin Urbas has some valuable tips related to children’s psychology.

A child is a gift to its parents and to society at large. Right from the start, a child starts acquiring awareness about its surroundings, and absorbing information. The way in which children perceive events and happenings are quite different from adults. Child psychology is the study of the mind of children and their thought patterns.

Read more: https://justinurbas.wordpress.com/2017/10/17/child-psychology-tips-to-bring-up-your-children-better/

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Understanding Child Psychology is Any Teacher’s First Responsibility

Try to find the simplest of things which indicates what a child in your class likes or dislikes. There are plenty of reasons for a child to cry or laugh; and Justin Urbas says that it isn’t hard to figure out those factors. In order to understand a child, we need to stop thinking too hard, and just think like we would, if we were still children.

Read more: https://justinurbas.wordpress.com/2018/12/22/understanding-child-psychology-is-any-teachers-first-responsibility/

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Top 10 Parenting Tips

Raising a family while keeping your life balanced is an art form. Here are ten tools that I have seen make life in the family lane a much nicer ride.

Identify your child's strengths. You can use them to build your child’s self-esteem, helping to provide the confidence he or she needs to tackle whatever seems difficult. Children will be more willing to listen and understand how to correct adverse behaviors if their dignity is intact.

Punishing a child is not as effective as using praise and rewards.  Rather than focusing on weaknesses, find ways to assist your child in developing to his or her full potential.  When encouraged, children will acquire talents to compensate for any deficiencies.

Read more: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/emotional-fitness/201509/top-10-parenting-tips

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7 Essential Tips on Child Psychology

Understanding children is often difficult for most adults including parents. The psychology of a very young mind is quite different from that of grown-ups. The failure of adults in understanding these differences can lead to unhappiness in children. If a child is left in an unhappy state, he or she can have emotional issues in the future. Let us take a look at some tried and tested tips on child psychology from leading child psychologist Justin Urbas. These can be of great help to you.

Read more: https://justinurbas.wordpress.com/2018/11/12/7-essential-tips-on-child-psychology/

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Tips To Understand Your Child's Psychology Better.

According to eminent psychologist Sigmund Freud, babies are initially driven by instinctive and selfish urges but gradually adapt to a more realistic approach by imbibing their parents’ values and rules. These play a role in the development of the child’s conscience.

One of the most important things that you, as a parent, should work on is understand your child’s psychology. No, you need not get a ‘degree’ in parenting. What you should do, though, is find out about the simple things that tell you what your kid likes or dislikes, what makes him laugh or cry, and what motivates him or causes him misery.

Click on the below link that explains you about child psychology and gives tips to understand what’s going on in your child’s mind.

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Child Psychology Tips To Bring Up Your Children Better.

A child is a gift to its parents and to society at large. Right from the start, a child starts acquiring awareness about its surroundings, and absorbing information. The way in which  children perceive events and happenings are quite different from adults. Child psychology is the study of the mind of children and their thought patterns. A child laughs, cries or grows restless for a wide range of reasons. Renowned child psychologist Justin Urbas has some valuable tips related to children’s psychology. Paying heed to these can help parents understand their children and bring them up better. 

Read more: https://justinurbas.wordpress.com/2017/10/17/child-psychology-tips-to-bring-up-your-children-better/

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Do we really need meds or is it all in our heads?

Okay, so the medication debate is not as black and white as the title may suggest.  It sure is worth having, however, as an article that came out this June in APA’s Monitor on Psychology about the inappropriate prescribing of psychotropic medication spells out.

Medication can be a game-changer for some people, allowing them to function in ways that they simply could not before being prescribed an appropriate medication.  For many others, more than we may guess, medication may not be as necessary or helpful as we are led to believe.  And when it comes to medicating children, be even more careful with prescribing, especially in light of the fact that many medications have not been thoroughly researched for kids.

Read more: http://www.child-psych.org/2017/04/special-editorial-meds-meds-medsdo-we-really-need-them-or-is-it-all-in-our-heads.html

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5 Foods That Negatively Affect Your Child’s Mood.

Parents intuitively know that food can impact their child’s behavior and mood. We know that sweets, for example, can cause bouts of hyperactivity. But mood-altering food isn’t limited to sugar – there are other culprits in the snacks and meals that we feed our little ones.

Read more: https://childdevelopmentinfo.com/adhd-add/five-foods-negatively-affect-childs-mood/

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Neither Music nor Facebook Cause Depression in Teens

Researchers at the University of Pittsburgh School of Medicine contacted 106 adolescents up to 60 times via cellphone over 5 weeks to ask about their media use at the time of the call. Forty-six teens had already been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder. Of the five media activities (television or movies, music, video games, Internet, and print media, such as magazines, newspapers, and books), only listening to music and reading were correlated with depression. In other words, the depressed teens were significantly more likely to be listening to music and less likely to be reading print media than the non-depressed teens. The researchers properly conclude that the association does not prove causality. 

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8 Ways to Teach Kids Self-Discipline Skills

The ultimate goal of discipline should be for your child to learn self-discipline. Your rules, consequences, and rewards should teach your child how to manage his behavior better.When kids have self-discipline, they're able to make healthy choices for themselves. Whether that means turning off the electronics so they can get their homework done or it means resisting an extra cookie when Mom isn't looking, self-discipline is the key to helping kids become responsible adults. Read more: https://www.verywell.com/teach-kids-self-discipline-skills-1095034

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Emotional and Behavioral Disorders :: You’re Not Alone, Mom

I’ve taught Special Education for 9 years now, focusing almost entirely on working with students with emotional and behavioral disorders (EBDs.) Generally- and very simply- speaking, an emotional/behavioral disorder is a chronic pattern of inappropriate feelings or actions under normal circumstances. For the sake of this post, I’m going to focus on EBDs that manifest through aggressive behaviors.

Emotional and Behavioral disorders don’t gain a lot of attention. These students somehow fall under the umbrella of Special Education, yet just right out of it’s reach. This population presents a unique need, and there isn’t a lot of sympathy, or even empathy in the world of EBDs. The days are often long, sometimes unsettling, and, honestly, not often rewarding.  And when I first began, it seemed like everyone else confidently knew the answer or was sure they had the “fix”- everyone seemed to have an opinion. And among the many things I’ve heard in my role as a Special Ed teacher, from advice to criticism, there’s one phrase that makes me want to pull my hair out:

“It’s the parents’ fault.”

The parents’ fault. The people who don’t have a choice but to endure and try to understand and “fix” disabilities that only seem to manifest themselves through dramatic mood swings, irrationality, and sometimes violence. The parent. The mothers. The fathers. The people who are people trying to figure out what’s best for their children, just like the rest of us are. I once went to a conference, and the speaker there mentioned that parents of kids with emotional and behavioral disorders may be experiencing the most insidious kind of domestic violence: the only kind of domestic violence where we routinely blame the victims.

When I start discussing what I do with friends, I am often asked if I think it’s bad parenting or the parent’s fault, or even if these kids learned the behavior from their parents. In the beginning of my career, I had no idea how to answer whether parents were the chicken or the egg when it came to their child’s behavior. Are the kids this way because of or in spite of the parents? I think there’s a huge assumption that violent kids must experience violence at home. I’m not entirely sure what the research says on that, but what I do know is that there are kids that do witness violence in their home, and don’t engage in aggressive behaviors. Emotional and Behavioral disorders are organically occurring. I’m guessing there might be some environmental factors that exacerbate aggressive behaviors- as there are with non-aggressive traits- but I’m still maintaining that, no, it’s not the parents’ fault.

More at: http://indianapolis.citymomsblog.com/school/emotional-and-behavioral-disorders-youre-not-alone-mom/

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Symptoms of Child Behavior Disorders

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Justin Urbas - Clinical Child Psychologist

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Justin Urbas - 3 easy ways you should use to reduce anxiety and stress from your child

The symptoms of anxiety are observed commonly among children of all ages. However, these problems seem to be more serious when kids are their adolescence. As per the Child Psychiatrists, almost 10-12% of kids during their school going days suffer from anxiety disorder and in many cases, it affects their personality in future also. Thus, whenever you find that your kids are getting stressed, you should take steps immediately to comfort them. But, the task is challenging to many parents. Here, Justin Urbas, has suggested some tips, which you can follow while managing stress among children.

Teach kids to face the fears:

To reduce the level of anxiety, at first you have to teach them how to face the fear. Kids have a tendency to avoid the situations which make them feel uncomfortable. However, researchers say that the anxiety level of kids reduces naturally, if they start facing difficult situations. While making kids familiar with such stressful situations, make sure that you are not forcing them anyway. Otherwise, they will get more stressed.

Encourage positive thinking:

Often the kids, whose anxiety level is high, lose themselves in self-criticism and negative thinking. It, in turn, increases the stress level of kids. You can reduce it significantly by encouraging the positive thinking. Teach them how to build confidence. Along with it, also teach how to learn from mistakes. Often the parents focus on making kids succeed in every field. Obviously, being successful is important. But, your kids should know they everything cannot be perfect.

Have some relaxing activity everyday:

In modern hectic schedule, spending quality time with kids, is quite difficult for many parents. Several studies are indicating that such lifestyle also causes stress among little kids. To avoid this, Justin Urbas suggests to have some fun activities every day for kids

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